Day 4...Bay of Married Pigs

Is there a secret cold war between marrieds and singles?

I don't know if I would call the seperation between the married world and the single world a cold war. It is more like an iron curtain. After being married for four years, I have realized that I do not hang out with any of my single friends anymore. In fact, they have become extremely foreign to me. I can no longer wrap my head around having drunken parties until two in the morning followed by a paranoid drive home and sex with a pseudo-stranger any longer.

I realized just this past month how different the mesh of friends becomes after your are married. My one male friend has flown the coup to Alabama with his new baby's mother, unmarried, and I hardly talk to him anymore. My other male friend has a domestic relationship, engaged, with a sweet girl who has two really cute kids. I see him on a monthly basis, but not with my husband or his fiance around most of the time. The other friends that I have are people who my husband knows, mostly paired off. The epiphany came to me when he decided that he wanted to have his guy friend over whom he hadn't seen in several years. Of course, I agreed to that. I thought, the hubby can occupy the living room drinking and catching up with his old bud and I can retreat to my bedroom and watch old movies or something. After a few hours it will be over and all will be as it was. Later in the day before the friend arrived, my hubby drops the bomb on me. The guy friend has informed my hubby that he intends to bring his girlfriend who my husband has never met or had knowledge of. Needless to say, I was not in the mood for a blind couples play date that night. I left my husband and his friend to catch up, the girl to sit quietly listening to them catch up, and I went happily to my mother's house to watch old movies. Of course, my husband explained to his buddy about my absence, but was not hesitant to tell me how much he thought that I would have gotten along with the girlfriend after he met her. I thought that women were supposed to make play dates for their husbands, not the other way around.